Dec 22, 2016

True Love is...

" Merry Christmas ! Kelan ka pa dumating? "

Bungad mo sa akin ng magkita tayo sa may Plaza.

Ewan kung anong petsa ang isinagot ko sa 'yo, tila ba natulala sa 'yong presensya.

Kelan nga ba tayo huling nagkita?

23 years.

Sino ba naman ang basta makakalimot sa tao na unang nagpatibok ng aking puso.
Graduating ka sa High School, 2nd year naman ako ng magkakilala tayo.
Sa pocketbooks ko lang nababasa ang tungkol sa mga lovelife.
Hanggang sa nanligaw ka sa akin at sinagot naman kita.

Isang taon na punung-puno ng pagmamahalan.

Hanggang sa maka graduate ka at ako ay naiwan.
Nung una madalas ka pang sumulat, hanggang sa dumalang,
hanggang sa tuluyan ng nawalan tayo ng komunikasyon.
Huling balita ko, meron ka na daw ibang karelasyon.

Nagkaroon tayo ng sari-sariling buhay.

Nagkaroon ako ng asawa,
Nagkaanak,
Nakipaghiwalay,
Nagpa anulled,
at ngayon ay heto, dalaga ng muli.


"Balita ko single ka na daw?" nakangiti mong tanong.
"ah, oo. 10 years na akong anulled sa ex hubby ko,musta naman ang family mo?" tanong ko sa 'yo.

"ok naman ang mga anak ko, yung nanay eh wag mo ng itanong" sabay tingin mo sa malayo.
" May pinagdadaanan?" tukso ko sa 'yo.

"hehehe, mahabang kwento. Ikaw eh, di mo ako sineryoso" biro man ito sa 'yo, may kirot naman na dala sa dibdib ko

"aba, at ako pa pala may kasalanan ha. Sino ba ang nawala na lang bigla? " sabay tawa ko ng mahina

" 1999 ka nagpakasal, 2009 naman ako,sino ba ang unang nag asawa sa ating dalawa? " balik tanong mo sa akin. 

Hindi ko alam kung gaano tayo katagal nag kwentuhan,
ang natatandaan ko lang ay ilan beses ng dumadaan ang mga naglalako ng pandesal.
Inumaga tayo sa kwentuhan.
Sa balitaan,
na animo'y ayaw mawala ang isa't-isa sa ating harapan.

" Kung tayo siguro ang nagkatuluyan, malamang ang saya ng buhay natin ngayon" sambit mo na may panghihinayang

" Di rin siguro, kase malamang lagi mo ko pinag seselos sa mga may crush sa 'yo" pabiro kong sagot

" Ikaw eh, puro ka selos. Ikaw kaya ang first and true love ko " tila may nagma marathon sa puso ko dahil sa sinabi mo.

" ako rin, ikaw ang firstlove ko " di ko alam kung saan ako humugot ng lakas para masabi ito.


Napakabilis ng mga pangyayari,
kinabig mo ako at hinalikan.
Softly, gently, nakakalula, para akong idinuduyan
Gumanti ako ng halik sa 'yo,
feeling high school lang ang pakiramdam.
Walang balak bumitaw sa ating dalawa.

Inabot ng mahigit 10 minuto ang paglalapat ng ating mga labi.
Nararamdaman ko ang kabog sa 'yong dibdib.
Nakaririndi ang pintig ng aking puso, daig pa ang tinatambol sa lakas.

" i love you " bulong mo sa aking teynga.

Sa loob ng 4 na araw na pananatili ko sa ating bayan,
naramdaman ko muli ang kasiyahan.
Parang nagbalik ako sa nakaraan,
at ang pinaka masakit ay ang muling paglisan.

" hintayin mo ako, susunod ako sa 'yo.Aayusin ko lang ang anullment namin ni Jenny at pakakasalan kita " sabay akap mo sa akin.

Para akong binuhusan ng tubig.

Bakit nga ba nakalimot ako sa ating sitwasyon,
kasal ka pa kay Jenny, may dalawa kayong anak na ang babata pa.
kakayanin ko bang mabuhay kasama ka, habang may dalawang paslit na mawawalan ng ama?


Singapore.

 


No relationship is a waste of time,
If  it didn't bring you what you like,
it taught you what you don't want.


True love is not a happy ending, 
it's a Perfect Beginning.

Dec 7, 2016

Takbo

January 2009
"buzz"
"buzz"

"musta ang SG?" bungad mo na mensahe sa akin
"ayos lang, busy as ever parin" matamlay kong sagot sa 'yo.

mahabang patlang. 
walang nagta type sa screen natin pareho.

"mukhang matamlay ah, may issue?" usisa mo sa akin.

"kase naman, lumabas na findings sa akin ng doctor" 

"may sakit ka? 
AIDS? 
hahahha!" sabay may smiley ka pang idinugtong.

"sira, MS lang. Multiple Sclerosis " paliwanag ko sa 'yo.

"OMG ! that's serious you know." 
"Tatakbo ako sa Marathon for you, for your illness, don't worry, i'm just here no matter what" 

Ramdam ko ang sinseridad mo ng gabi na yun.
Magkalayo man tayo, alam ko na tunay na kaibigan ang turing mo sa akin.


Pagkakaibigan na nagsimula sa mIRC, 
humantong sa Alamak chat 
at ngayon nga ay heto, 
nakarating na sa yahoo messenger.

Di man tayo nagkikita ng personal,
ramdam naman natin ang presensya ng isa't-isa.
May common ground nga tayo sabi mo di ba.


Later that year, isang mensahe ang natanggap ko sa Friendster.

"Hi, brother po ako ni Mike, he passed away few days ago here in Canada."

Atake sa puso.

Nabigla talaga ako. 


Sabi mo, tatakbo ka para sa sakit ko, 
yun pala mauuna ka pa mawala kesa sa akin.
Ang daya mo talaga !


December 2016.

Habang nakatayo ako kasama ang ibang kalahok na tatakbo sa Standard Chartered Marathon,
naalala kita. 

Parang kagabi lang nangyari ang usapan natin, na tatakbo ka sa Multiple Sclerosis Society,

na tatakbo ka para sa akin.


Napatingin ako sa langit,
animoy imahe ng lalake ang aking nakita.
Nakangiti. 
Walang problema.


"at kung sakali na mapansin mo 
na may mga mata na tila nakatitig sa bawat hakbang mo,
tumingin ka lang sa langit, malamang ay nakatanaw ako "


Para sa isang kaibigan, salamat !

Ang takbo na ito ay para sa 'yo. Mike Dumlao.


May 10, 2016

Agila

at nagbunyi ang mga nilalang sa kagubatan
naghihintay sa pag dapo ng Agila 
sa kanyang bagong tahanan

habang ang mga buwitre at leon 
ay walang tigil sa kanilang kinalalagyan
animo'y may malaking himagsikan

dumating na nga ang magpapabago...

abangan ang paglipad ng Agila
sa huling araw ng ikaw 6 na buwan.

#changeiscoming

Apr 7, 2016

Let's talk about annulment

There are a lot of questions being asked when it comes to separation and annulment.

excerpt from:  Philippine e-legal forum.

Is “annulment” different from a “declaration of nullity” of marriage?

Yes. In essence, “annulment” applies to a marriage that is considered valid, but there are grounds to nullify it. A “declaration of nullity” of marriage, on the other hand, applies to marriages that are void or invalid from the very beginning. In other words, it was never valid in the first place.
Also, an action for annulment of voidable marriages may prescribe, while an action for declaration of nullity of marriage does not prescribe.
So, if a marriage is void from the very beginning (void ab initio), there’s no need to file anything in court?
For purposes of remarriage, there must be a court order declaring the marriage as null and void. Entering into a subsequent marriage without such court declaration means that: (a) the subsequent marriage is void; and (b) the parties open themselves to a possible charge of bigamy.
What if no marriage certificate could be found?
Justice Sempio-Dy, in the “Handbook of on the Family Code of the Philippines” (p. 26, 1997 reprint), says: “The marriage certificate is not an essential or formal requisite of marriage without which the marriage will be void. An oral marriage is, therefore, valid, and failure of a party to sign the marriage certificate or the omission of the solemnizing officer to send a copy of the marriage certificate to the proper local civil registrar, does not invalidate the marriage. Also the mere fact that no record of marriage can be found, does not invalidate the marriage provided all the requisites for its validity are present.” (Citations omitted)
Can I file a petition (annulment or declaration of absolute nullity of marriage) even if I am in a foreign country?
Yes, the rules recognize and allow the filing of the petition by Filipinos who are overseas.
What are the grounds for annulment?
1. Lack of parental consent in certain cases. If a party is 18 years or over, but below 21, and the marriage was solemnized without the consent of the parents/guardian. However, the marriage is validated if, upon reaching 21, the spouses freely cohabited with the other and both lived together as husband and wife.
2. Insanity. A marriage may be annulled if, at the time of marriage, either party was of unsound mind, unless such party after coming to reason, freely cohabited with the other as husband and wife.
3. Fraud. The consent of either party was obtained by fraud, unless such party afterwards, with full knowledge of the facts constituting the fraud, freely cohabited with the other as husband and wife. Fraud includes: (i) non-disclosure of a previous conviction by final judgment of the other party of a crime involving moral turpitude; (ii) concealment by the wife of the fact that at the time of the marriage, she was pregnant by a man other than her husband; (iii) concealment of sexually transmissible disease or STD, regardless of its nature, existing at the time of the marriage; or (iv) concealment of drug addiction, habitual alcoholism or homosexuality or lesbianism existing at the time of the marriage. However, no other misrepresentation or deceit as to character, health, rank, fortune or chastity shall constitute such fraud as will give grounds for action for the annulment of marriage.
4. Force, intimidation or undue influence. If the consent of either party was obtained by any of these means, except in cases wherein the force, intimidation or undue influence having disappeared or ceased, the complaining party thereafter freely cohabited with the other as husband and wife.
5. Impotence. At the time of marriage, either party was physically incapable of consummating the marriage with the other, and such incapacity continues and appears to be incurable. Impotence is different from being infertile.
6. STD. If, at the time of marriage, either party was afflicted with a sexually-transmissible disease found to be serious and appears to be incurable. If the STD is not serious or is curable, it may still constitute fraud (see No. 3 above).

What if a spouse discovers that his/her spouse is a homosexual or is violent, can he/she ask for annulment?

Homosexuality or physical violence, by themselves, are not sufficient to nullify a marriage. At the very least, however, these grounds may be used as basis for legal separation.

How is “legal separation” different from annulment?
The basic difference is this – in legal separation, the spouses are still considered married to each other, and, thus, may not remarry.

Is legal separation faster than annulment?
Not necessarily. The petitioner in a legal separation, just like in an annulment, is still required to prove the allegations contained in the petition. More important is the mandatory 6-month “cooling off” period in legal separation cases. This is not required in annulment or declaration of nullity cases. The court is required to schedule the pre-trial conference not earlier than six (6) months from the filing of the petition. This period is meant to give the spouses an opportunity for reconciliation.

What are the grounds for legal separation?
1. Repeated physical violence or grossly abusive conduct directed against the petitioner, a common child, or a child of the petitioner.
2. Physical violence or moral pressure to compel the petitioner to change religious or political affiliation.
3. Attempt of respondent to corrupt or induce the petitioner, a common child, or a child of the petitioner, to engage in prostitution, or connivance in such corruption or inducement.
4. Final judgment sentencing the respondent to imprisonment of more than six years, even if pardoned.
5. Drug addiction or habitual alcoholism of the respondent.
6. Lesbianism or homosexuality of the respondent.
7. Contracting by the respondent of a subsequent bigamous marriage, whether in the Philippines or abroad.
8. Sexual infidelity or perversion.
9. Attempt by the respondent against the life of the petitioner.
10. Abandonment of petitioner by respondent without justifiable cause for more than one year.
The term “child” shall include a child by nature or by adoption.

Should I file a petition for legal separation, can I use my own sexual infidelity as a ground?
It is interesting to note that among the grounds for legal separation, as listed above, only “sexual infidelity or perversion” is not qualified by the phrase “of the respondent” or “by respondent”. This may give the impression that the sexual infidelity of the petitioner, or the one who filed the petition, may be used as a ground in legal separation. We must consider, however, that legal separation is filed by the innocent spouse or the “aggrieved party” against the guilty spouse.

What happens if after learning that your husband (or wife) is unfaithful (No. 8 above), you still co-habitate with him/her?

This may be construed as condonation, which is a defense in actions for legal separation. In addition to condonation, the following are the defenses in legal separation:
1. Consent.
2. Connivance (in the commission of the offense or act constituting the ground for legal separation).
3. Mutual guilt (both parties have given ground for legal separation).
4. Collusion (to obtain decree of legal separation).
5. Prescription (5 years from the occurence of the cause for legal separation).

If you’re separated from your spouse for 4 years, is that a sufficient ground for annulment?
No. De facto separation is not a ground for annulment. However, the absence of 2 or 4 years, depending on the circumstances, may be enough to ask the court for a declaration of presumptive death of the “absent spouse”, in which case the petitioner may again re-marry. See Can someone remarry without going to court due to absence or separation?

What are the grounds for declaration of nullity of marriage?
1. Minority (those contracted by any party below 18 years of age even with the consent of parents or guardians).
2. Lack of authority of solemnizing officer (those solemnized by any person not legally authorized to perform marriages, unless such marriages were contracted with either or both parties believing in good faith that the solemnizing officer had the legal authority to do so).
3. Absence of marriage license (except in certain cases).
4. Bigamous or polygamous marriages (except in cases where the other spouse is declared as presumptively dead).
5. Mistake in identity (those contracted through mistake of one contracting party as to the identity of the other).
6. After securing a judgement of annulment or of asolute nullity of mariage, the parties, before entering into the subsequent marriage, failed to record with the appropriate registry the: (i) partition and distribute the properties of the first marriage; and (ii) delivery of the children’s presumptive legitime.
7. Incestous marriages (between ascendants and descendants of any degree, between brothers and sisters, whether of the full or half blood).
8. Void by reason of public policy. Marriages between (i) collateral blood relatives whether legitimate or illegitimate, up to the fourth civil degree; (ii) step-parents and step-children; (iii) parents-in-law and children-in-law; (iv) adopting parent and the adopted child; (v) surviving spouse of the adopting parent and the adopted child; (vi) surviving spouse of the adopted child and the adopter; (vii) an adopted child and a legitimate child of the adopter; (viii) adopted children of the same adopter; and (ix) parties where one, with the intention to marry the other, killed that other person’s spouse, or his or her own spouse.
9. Psychological Incapacity. Psychological incapacity, which a ground for annulment of marriage, contemplates downright incapacity or inability to take cognizance of and to assume the basic marital obligations; not a mere refusal, neglect or difficulty, much less, ill will, on the part of the errant spouse. Irreconcilable differences, conflicting personalities, emotional immaturity and irresponsibility, physical abuse, habitual alcoholism, sexual infidelity or perversion, and abandonment, by themselves, also do not warrant a finding of psychological incapacity. We already discussed the guidelines and illustrations of psychological incapacity, including a case involving habitual lying, as well as the steps and procedure in filing a petition.
Please note, however, that there are still other grounds to declare a marriage as null and void.
Annulment, how is it?

Please follow the link below for more information about Philippine e-legal forum.
website: .http://jlp-law.com/blog/

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